Bible Base: Proverbs 10:28
If the Bible states that:
“The hope of the righteous shall be gladness: But the expectation of the wicked shall perish” (Proverbs 10:28), it is important that your expectations are not wicked or unrealistic.
Unrealistic expectations are one of the major problems that destroy marriage relationships.
Back in Genesis, when God saw Adam’s loneliness, He gave him Eve for companionship, with the added bonuses of
sexual intercourse, and procreation (See Genesis 2:18-25).
Additionally, God blessed both of them for the responsibility of dominionship over the world.
Marriage is not a servant -master relationship, even though the Man (husband) is the lead-partner (See Genesis 1:27-28, Ephesians 5:23, I Corinthians 11:3).
God does hold the man accountable, who treats his wife treacherously, violently, or with despise, etc. (Read Malachi 2:14, Hebrews 13:4).
When a man enslaves or subjugates his wife under the guise of submission, he has given access to anger, resentment, slave mentality, bitterness, vindictiveness and other evils, to function in His marriage. And vice versa.
*In my book Demons Deactivated 1, the subject of subjugation and submission was well discussed, so I’m not going to discuss it here.
Be that as it may, marriage is one of God’s gifts to humanity.
Hence, we are told that ‘the man who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from God.’ See Proverbs 18:22.
If your marriage is plagued with troubles, God is not responsible for that. And instead of blaming satan, or your partner, put the searchlight on you, and your marital crisis situation will be resolved quickly.
Important Notice:
a). All humans are ‘free moral agents’ who have the power to make choices!
Which makes you responsible for your actions, reactions, and responses – See Deuteronomy 30:15-20, Galatians 6:6-8.
b). You can choose to enjoy your marriage by following the Christ and His Church model, found in Ephesians 5: 25-29,33, or you can follow the traditional, societal, and worldly view of marriage.
c). If you are ‘born again’, you have been given everything that pertains to life and Godliness – See 2 Peter 1:3.
d).Which means, you now have the ingrained ability in your new nature, to live right in this degenerating world, and you can treat your spouse right.
e).Remember that your wife is “heirs with you of the gracious gift of life” when you treat her right, “nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7)
f). Know that God who freely gave you the Kingdom will graciously also give you all things – See Romans 8:32 .
It is unrealistic to expect your partner to give you things that you’ll receive only through an intimate relationship with God.
Therefore, If you went into marriage expecting your partner to give you joy, peace, prosperity, security, love, etc., you have set yourself up for marital failure.
These are things that you internalize, and then reflect them in your relationship with God and others.
God expects that the Christian develops his/her new nature in Christ, which has been created in God’s image, in true righteousness and holiness (See Ephesians 4:24)
That new nature is evident in the fruit of the Spirit which is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (longsuffering, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, gentleness (meekness (humility) Self control (self-restraint) See Galatians 5:22-23.
Your marriage is God’s gift to you. He wants you to enjoy the companionship of your partner and to ‘do life’ together.
It is your responsibility to ask God for your needs so that your joy will be full (See John 16: 24-26, Matthew 7:7).
Refuse to allow Unrealistic expectations become the bane of your marriage
#PrayerPoints4Today:
*Thank Father God for the grace of marriage, and for giving you a partner with whom ‘to do’ life together ❤ ️.
*Ask and receive forgiveness, for idolizing and blaming your partner for your unmet needs, instead of working out your salvation, and growing spiritually.
*Affirm that God is working in you both to will and to do His good pleasure.
*Declare that you are yielded to the inworking of the Holy Spirit, and will continually produce fruits worthy of repentance.
*Affirm that you have been translated from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light, and are no longer under the jurisdiction of satan.
* Command to go at once to the feet of Jesus Christ, the evil spirits that are influencing marital strife, anger, rejections, revenge, unforgiveness, hatred, resentment, bitterness, unrealistic expectations, jealousy, blame shifting, poverty, wretchedness, divorce, frustrating circumstances, and adverse human interferences, with their relatives.
*Proclaim your authority in Christ Jesus and the ability to utilize the power given to you over all the forces of evil.
*Declare that all satanic interferences or projections, witchcraft manipulations, ingrained cultural beliefs, societal norms, ego, contrary learned behaviors, and everything else opposed to God’s righteous standards in your life and marriage, are disconnected, disabled, and destroyed.
*Declare also that you stand against the forces of evils.
*Affirm that you are a new creature in Christ Jesus, created in the image of God in true Holiness and righteousness: Therefore, your personality and characteristics will continually reflect God, who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.
*Renounce all inhibitions, resentment, negativity or unrighteousness against your in-laws (family by marriage).
* Declare that love, acceptance, and forgiveness flows from you to them and that no partiality or dissensions can work against you all.
*Thank Father God that from today, your mind is renewed to appreciate the grace of marriage, and that you and your partner are mutually submissive to God.
*Pray that God in His infinite mercy will bring reconciliation to troubled marriages.
*Ask God to help those who are seeking to be married to be connected together and their expectations granted.
*Pray for widows, widowers, and elderly singles to be protected, comforted, and provided for, always, and for family members to remember to visit them also.
*Thank God for the anointing for effective and fervent prayer.
#MyPrayer4you:
I pray that as God is working within us, we will become more appreciative, be more understanding, live in harmony and unity, and also model the love of Christ to our world of influences, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ.
Shalom from Hephzibah Christly,Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior, July 20th, 2024.
Updated November 5th, 2024.
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