Category: christian counseling

#5 Prayer Focus for Today: The Forgiving God

Many of us, due to our upbringing, religious indoctrination or conditioning, past traumatic events, perfectionism, and the ‘holier-than-you- mentality,   have developed guilt-complex and sin consciousness.

When I suffered from a guilt-complex, I clung to the doctrine of salvation by works, self isolated, self sabotaged, experienced diminished self-worth, formed destructive habits and was full of criticisms. 

If you can relate, please know that there is relief and deliverance from all these negative feelings in Christ Jesus. 

In referencing  what Jesus Christ accomplished for Humanity, the Bible  states, “Who knew no sin was made to be sin for us, so that we might become the righteousness of God in him” (2 Corinthians 5:21 KJV)

If Jesus Christ has been made sin for us, then sin is no longer the issue when you are in Christ. 

Since there is nothing you can  give in exchange for your soul (Mark 8:37), and God is not unrighteous to try someone twice for the same offense: which would amount to double jeopardy; Righteousness is the issue.

Clearly, the Bible teaches that we are justified by  faith in Christ, made righteous by His work, and given the ability to walk in righteousness (Read Galatians 2:15-21; 3:24, Romans 3:28; 5:1; Ephesians 2:8: Titus 3:5, 1Corinthians 1:18, 2 Corinthians 1:3; 1 Thessalonians 5:23).

The simple truth is that  when you are born again, you can not be comfortable living in sin.

 Hence, many of us struggle with accepting that God forgives and blots out records of sin (See Psalm 103)

It took me a while to appreciate the grace-mechanism known as FORGIVENESS of SINS, which states that:

‘if we confess our sins,  God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness’ (1 John 1:9)

Therefore, If you commit sin, confess it to God at the place of prayers, and BELIEVE  that you are forgiven as His Word says in 1 John 1:9

You need to be intentional in the battle to overcome guilt-complex and embrace the forgiveness of sin that is available in Christ Jesus.

#DeliverancePrayer  for dealing with guilt complex:

Father God,  thank you for my salvation, deliverance, prosperity, forgiveness, cleansing, and restoration.

Thank you for giving me your righteousness and the ability to continue in righteousness, for sin no longer has power over me.

I renounce all religious indoctrination, ingrained learned behaviors, and triggers that keep me in bondage to unforgiveness and guilt- complex.

 I declare that I am no longer in bondage or controlled by the aforementioned issues.

I command to go at once to the feet of Jesus Christ, all the evil spirits influencing triggers, punitive behaviors, feelings of helplessness, lack of self worth, guilt responses, feelings of remorse, negative self talk, emotional distress, sadness, shame, anxiety, depression and related evils.

I Pronounce myself free from all evil self-perpetuating patterns, I let go of all destructive habits and self-righteousness.

I forgive myself, and everyone that I have not forgiven. 

I receive forgiveness of sins, cleansings from all unrighteousness, the joy of salvation, and the truth that I…..(name) am accepted in the Beloved.

Thank you, God, for even if my heart condemns me, You are greater than my heart  and know everything (1 John 3:20).

Thank you for being the God who forgives me, and remembers my sins no more, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ ♥️ 

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior, July 14. 2024.

Updated October 25th, 2024

#4 Prayer Focus for Today: The Surrendered Life.

Greetings people of God. 

The first song in my spirit this morning is a popular hymn that we used to sing in my teenage years.

Here it goes:

“All to Jesus, I surrender, 

All to him I freely give. 

I will ever love and  trust him,

In his presence daily live, 

Chorus:

I surrender all 2x

All to thee my blessed Savior, 

I surrender all.” 

This song was written by Judson W. Van DeVenter (1855-1939) put to music by Winfield S. Weeden (1847-1908)

(You can look up the song online for the remaining lyrics)

To many of us, this song expresses our thoughts, hopes and aspirations. We strongly desire to be in tune with God’s perfect will and live in consonance with His plans and purposes. 

But alas, with an on-going battle with the cares of the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life (1 John 2:16), in addition to the confusion of not knowing how to balance the laws of the land and the righteous standards of God, we end up being looked at as wimpy and lukewarm Christians; by those who think they all their ducks in a row!

Only God knows how real the struggle is and how uncomfortable it is to continue living like unbelievers or being classified as lukewarm and wimpy.

For those who are dissatisfied with the status quo and desire a revival:  And who honestly want to experience that fire that burns 🔥 when you are in love and, who like David desire ‘the restoration of the joy of salvation’ Read Psalm 51:12:

Let us pray: #Prayer4Today

Father God,  thank you for the salvation of my soul. 

Thank you for working in me both to will and to do of your good pleasure.

I acknowledge that I have strayed from the pathways of righteousness and fallen into decay.

I know that only you can pull me out of this pit of my comfort zone, and ignite the fire of the Holy Spirit within me.

 I yield my life and my bloodline to you Father, have your way. Purify our hearts, make it be as gold. Help us to be effective witnesses of your love, grace, goodness, joy, kindness and patience.

Thank you for giving me the Holy Spirit to teach, remind, empower and comfort me. 

Help me to be more sensitive to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and to be obedient to the promptings also.

Thank you for enabling me to walk in righteousness and to be light and salt in this life, so that there will be a clear distinction between me and those in the world. 

Ignite your fire 🔥 in me. Let me burn and shine in this world as your representative.

From today, your Word grows mightily in me, gains ascendancy, and produces the results of what it says, to your glory and praise, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ. 

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior, July 13th, 2024.

Reviewed October 24th, 2024

#3 Prayer Focus for Today: The God who Heals and Delivers (b)

Continuation:

3b. Command the immediate cessation of all symptoms, and declare that healings should manifest now.

3c. Place your right hand over your heart, and tell it to stop being troubled and to start trusting in the Lord.

3d. Place your right hand over your head, and declare that you are ‘the healed’, therefore, every organ, vessels, muscles, bone, tissues etc, should sync and function with God’s Word.

3e. If you have a diagnosis, call the sickness by its medical name and tell it to leave your body at once because you refuse to accommodate it any longer, in your body.

3f. Tell your spirit, soul and body that it is well and affliction will not come again.

4 Declarations:
4a. Declare that you have a good heritage as a child of God who owns the universe. Therefore, all embargoes and bans over your economic and financial prosperity are abrogated.

4b. Declare that you are blessed beyond curses and the accrued blessings of the Gentiles should start to flood your existence now.

4c. Thank God that the covenantal blessings of Abraham come to you and proclaim that the end has come upon lack, indebtedness, financial miseries, workplace insecurities, fear of losing income, bloodline poverty and hardships, homelessness, lack of incomes, hunger, fear of tomorrows, and other related issues.

  1. Say these words to yourself from your heart and mean it:
    “I…. (Mention your name) refuse to be poor, wretched, beggarly, and miserable. Poverty does not indicate righteousness, for I have been made righteous by my faith in Christ Jesus.

Today, I cast off the chains of hopelessness, wretchedness, penury, disdain and religious bigotry, hereditary poverty, and poverty mentality.

I pronounce myself healed and delivered from everything that hindered me from enjoying the benefits of salvation.

Through prosperity, I shall be spreading the Good News of salvation, so help me God.

Finally, Thank God your Healer and Deliverer. Thank Him for his steadfast love and excellent greatness.

#MyPrayer4You:

I agree with your prayers and declare that grace and favor will always answer for you.

I curse the root of that sickness and command its life giving sources to die now.
Be healed in your body,
Be healed in your mind.
Be healed in your spirit.


I release to you miraculous financial favors that will clear up your debts and give you a new beginning.

Everyone in your support groups are blessed for giving you support.
By blessing you, channels of blessings open to them daily in Jesus name..

God Will show up strong for you, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ.

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly,Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior , July 12, 2024.

Reviewed October 23rd 2024

#2 Prayer Focus for Today: The God who Heals and Delivers (a)

Note: This is going to be lengthy, so it is in 2 parts already.

Today is our wedding anniversary,  and we are so thankful for the grace of marriage.

This month is also the 30th anniversary of the Call to full-time Christian ministry  and the 29th year of Pioneering the Spiritual Warfare and Tactics Squad-SWATS. 

You would expect that our prayers for today would focus on these things.

Naah! God has better ideas. He has led us to focus on Him as the One who ‘sent His Word, to heal and deliver us from destructions’ (See Psalm 107:20).

Our God is that Great Physician who not only heals all diseases, he also delivers people from financial ruin, economic stagnation, abusive relationships, self-destructive ideas….(fill in your situations)

Today, know that God the Great Physician and Deliverer, have your back, even if Medicaid has dropped you, and Medicare is frustrating, and you are jobless, homeless or sick. 

You are not hopeless.  

God’s health insurance plans have comprehensive coverage for every aspect of your life,- finances, relationships and general welfare.

You need to know and understand WHO God is and Believe in Him.

As Healer, God is the Great Physician who heals everything that makes us sinful, sick, shameful, or subjugated. 

Hence, He sent Jesus Christ to ‘take our illnesses and carry away our diseases’ (Matthew 8:17): And ‘by whose stripes you were healed’ (1 Peter 2:24).

As Deliverer, God strengthens, empowers economically, rescues, and prospers.  

The Bible is replete with testimonies of how God delivered His people from slavery. He brought them out with silver and gold,  and none were feeble among  (Psalm 105:37).

God is unchanging. What He did for others,  He will do for you. Know Him for who HE is.

#PrayerPoints4Today:

1.Thanksgiving:

1a Read Psalm 107:20-22:

1b Present yourself, your family, friends and your nation to God, and  thank Him for healing- diseases, marriages, relationships and emotional hurts.

1c Thank Him for delivering you all from the destructive influences in the world.

2 Confession of sin:

Sin makes us vulnerable to satan and sicknesses. 

2a. Acknowledge your sins and receive forgiveness of sins and cleansing from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).

2. Affirmations:

2a Declare that Christ Jesus has taken away your sins and carried away your sicknesses and that you refuse to accept the diagnosis and prognosis of your condition. 

God has the final say! Hallelujah 

3. #SpiritualWarfare:

3a. Command to depart at once from your world, and go with all their relatives to the feet of Jesus Christ, all the evil spirits influencing infirmities, fears, doubts,  addiction issues, error, default behavioral patterns, indebtedness, economic stagnation, helplessness, neediness, and victim mentality.

See part b for the continuation.

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior. July 12, 2024.

Reviewed October 22nd, 2024.

#1 Prayer Focus for Today: The Goodness of God.

Recently, as we prayed, we are being led to focus on an aspect of God’s essence in worshipful reverence.

Yesterday, our focus was on His faithfulness. I apologize for not writing down the revelations about His faithfulness.

I’m thankful that today, I can share these prayerful thoughts with you.

As my feet hit the floor of our bedroom, I heard a song in my spirit eulogizing the Goodness of God. And I knew that was my prayer-focus for the day! Hallelujah.

What is Goodness?
Goodness is that recognizable quality in the character and conduct of God that entitles Him to our worship.

#PrayerPoints4Today:

  1. Spend some time to review God’s goodness in your life and thank Him for it

Here are some reminders:

1a Although we live in a decadent world, He blesses our food and drinks and takes sicknesses away from us.

1b And even when we get sick because we live in a death-destined world, HE heals us.

1c Pause for a sec., and think of the numerous illnesses that are beyond medical sciences, and that you are not that victim.

Even if you are on meds, your situation is not hopeless, you are being healed!

Although the goodness of God may seem insignificant, it is a very important aspect of God’s character and conduct that stabilizes my Faith in Him.

The Collins Cobuild Advanced Learners Dictionary online describes Goodness as “the quality of being kind, helpful, and honest.” Which, to some extent describes our God, who, despite our many ‘fails’, still retains faith in us.

It is comforting to know in the inside of me that GOODNESS is WHO God is.
Our badness or evilness cannot change who HE is.

  1. As you are praying, remember to thank God for His protection, provisions and patience.
    2a It is of His mercies that we are not destroyed by the evils in the world.

Personal Testimony:

A few nights ago, we forgot to shut our garage and the front door⁹, and went to bed. Although our neighborhood was all lit up, yet, God’s goodness protected us.

2b Think about how God’s goodness shields you from open shame, ridicule, great losses, etc.

Indeed, God is Good.

  1. The Bible says that “…as  He is, so are we in this world” (1 John 4:17c)

3a Thank God for His grace at work in your life, enabling you to be as good as He is.

3b Declare also that from henceforth you will be blameless and upright, revere God, abstain from and shun evils.
3c Affirm that your walk will be consistent with your words and your conduct consistent with your confessions, in Jesus’s name.

I leave you with these scriptures to meditate on from James 1:17-21 KJV:
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.” James 1:17-21 KJV.

#MyPrayer4You:
Finally, I pray that the goodness of God that leads to repentance leads all who are not in Christ to make that commitment today.
I pray that surely, God’s goodness and mercy follows you all the days of your life, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ ♥️
Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, Ph.D., #TheSpiritualWarrior. July 11th, 2024.

Reviewed October 21st 2024

When the Tornadoes came to Benton County, NorthWest Arkansas:

This was my first tornado experience, May 26th 2024

 I had an early night and woke up to the sound of both the tornado warning and  emergency alerts.

It was so surreal.

As we were watching the weather reports, lights flickered and went out.

From our phones, we heard the weatherman call out our street’s name, saying that the tornado was upon us!

We went into the bathtub with only duvets over our heads, and the weirdest sounds outside.

It was so eerie! 

Can you imagine a giant and another fat person trying to squat or huddle in a narrow bathtub?

As the tornado swung by in a drunken rage, it dropped a limb over our backyard, took out some shingles, and kicked over some flower pots that were on the ground, but left without touching all our outdoor hanging flower pots!

Ain’t that God!

We have these 3 trees that are taller than the electric poles.  If the tornado had tossed any of them, we would have become a statistical data!

But God…

However, as the tornado circled our neighborhood, it took out some trees and dropped them over cars, rooftops and powerlines. 

Then, it took out fences, overturned more waste bins, poured some rain into some houses, and went bye- bye!

We thank God for protection, preservation and safety.

Our prayers are for those who lost homes, businesses and personal properties.

We pray that God send them help speedily, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ. 

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, TheSpiritualWarrior, May 26, 2024

Deliverance from Lust & Mastubation:

‭Bible Reference:
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 1 John 2:16 KJV

Mastubation, which is the erotic stimulation of one’s own sexual organs, outside of sexual intercourse, is not peculiar to men alone. Even women do mastubate.

Mastubation can be categorized scripturally under ‘Lust of the flesh’ 1 John 2:16.

The Christian is to –
“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts.
Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” 2 Timothy 2:22 NLT.

Because of hereditary and ingrained learned behavior, some people battle with lustful desires.

There are two major ways to break free from bondages to lustful desires.


Spiritual Therapy: deliverance- spiritual warfare prayers.

The prayers invite God into your situation as well as stop all satanic interferences to enable you  to nforce the victory of the Cross in your life.

Lifestyle changes: Decide in your heart to stop, ✋️ then change everything you were doing contrary to God’s Word. Start living your life by the Holy Bible

Deliverance Prayers:
ABBA Father, in the name of Jesus Christ I ask for and receive forgiveness for not resisting temptation and for getting pleasure from masturbation.


I also receive cleansing from all unrighteousness and the disabling of all genetic predispositions to evils in me.

I hereby close all satanic access routes to my soul and body and affirm that my body is the temple of the Living God.

I confess that I am disconnected from pornography, masturbation, and all other sexual sins and they shall no longer have dominion over me and my bloodline.

I declare myself delivered and disconnected from all links and connections that the demons of lust and perversion were using to control me.

I exercise my Christ given authority over all forces of evils, especially over Opiel, the chief spirit of lust, and all other related sex demons who assault me in my dreams, or who are enabling the habit of mastubation and pornography.

All satanic interferences with My hands, mind, affections, reasoning, consciousness, subconsciousness, semi consciousness, deep consciousness, sexual organs, dream-state, memories, repressed memories, and human nature are hereby disabled and destroyed.

I affirm that I am no longer subject to thought distortions, destructive fantasies, behavioral patterns that were impacting my life and reinforcing the habit of mastubation and pornography.

I affirm that sin, satan and shame shall no longer torment, oppress, intimidate, control or manipulate my life ever again, in the matchless name of Jesus Christ.
Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, TheSpiritualWarrior, October 8, 2020

Wisdom is profitable to direct:

How have you adapted to the changes brought in by the Covid-19 pandemic?33

As a Christian Spiritual Therapist, the pandemic ingrained in my heart that “Wisdom is profitable to direct” Ecclesiastes 10:10b

During the pandemic,  I was  a victim of social media censorship, which led to the shutting down of several of my Christian ministry outlets. 

Although lots of data was lost, what hurt the most was the loss of platforms that gave me access to reach people with the Good News of salvation. 

Zeal without knowledge is counterproductive, it alienates rather than attracts. 

Hence the Bible says :

Your speech should always be gracious and sprinkled with insight so that you may know how to respond to every person.   

Colossians 4:6 CEB

After those bitter experiences,  I am more focused on lovingly leading people to the Truth of God’s Word, than in scoring points, in winning arguments or judging sin. 

The pandemic made me realize that it is better to be persecuted for righteousness sake, than to be persecuted for indiscretions of impudence.

When John the Baptist left his assigned mission to prepare the way for the Messiah in pursuit of the sins of Herod and Herodias, he ended beheaded and his ministry ended prematurely. 

Prayer:

I pray that you will apply your heart to skillful and Godly wisdom, conscientiously seek understanding, and be a blessing to your world of influences in the matchless name of Jesus Christ ♥️ 

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, TheSpiritualWarrior,  April 2nd, 2024

I now understand better that “Wisdom is profitable to direct “

How have you adapted to the changes brought on by the Covid-19 pandemic?

Wisdom is profitable to direct:

As a Christian spiritual therapist, the pandemic ingrained in my heart that “Wisdom is profitable to direct” Ecclesiastes 10:10b

During the pandemic,  I was  a victim of social media censorship, which led to the shutting down of several of my Christian ministry outlets. 

Although lots of data was lost, what hurt the most was the loss of platforms that gave me access to reach people with the Good News of salvation. 

Zeal without knowledge is counterproductive, it alienates rather than attracts. 

Hence, the Bible says: “Your speech should always be gracious and sprinkled with insight so that you may know how to respond to every person.”  Colossians 4:6 CEB

After those bitter experiences,  I am more focused on lovingly leading people to the Truth of God’s Word than in scoring points, in winning arguments or in judging sins. 

The pandemic made me realize that it is better to be persecuted for righteousness sake, than to be persecuted for indiscretions of impudence.

When John the Baptist left his assigned mission to prepare the way for the Messiah in pursuit of the sins of Herod and Herodias, he ended beheaded and his ministry ended prematurely. 

Prayer:

I pray that you will apply your heart to skillful and Godly wisdom, conscientiously seek understanding, and be a blessing to your world of influences in the matchless name of Jesus Christ ♥️ 

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, TheSpiritualWarrior,  April 2nd, 2024

You are more precious than these…

What are your morning rituals? What does the first hour of your day look like?

Most mornings,  we spend about one hour in worship and intercessory prayers. 

Afterward,  I visit with my indoors and outdoors gardens in our front and back yards.

It was a beautiful sight today to see the beautiful yellow bloom of my curly kale.

The uniqueness of this veggie is this: I had no place for them on my raised beds and had to leave them in that bald portion of our yard. They were castaways!

Surprisingly, they survived the inclement weather – hale, snow, sleet, and frost of winter – and are blooming this spring.

Whereas, the ones that I tended did not survive the winter.

‭“For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?  Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? Matthew 6:25-26 NASB

Even if family and friends treat you with ignominy, look to God, who is Father to the fatherless and friend to the friendless, He will beautify your life and nobody can say you owe them your success!

I pray for you today that you will laugh again, and your laughter will resound, and those that hear you laugh will laugh with you in Jesus Christ matchless name ❤️

Shalom from Hephzibah Christly, TheSpiritualWarrior April 1st 2024