1. I just don’t love my spouse anymore:

Love is not a feeling – It’s a choice and the act of the will. The complementary action proves it The choice to love or not to love is yours to make. Be intentional. Love your spouse. Love never dies. Love is eternal for GOD is love. And as HE is so are we in this world. Love like GOD.

2. My spouse has never met my needs and never will:

Love is selfless. Have you stopped to think whether you are meeting your spouse’s needs as well? Problem arises when we place our spouse on a pedestal where GOD should be. Only GOD can meet all our needs. The spouse can only to that which he/she can because of the human limitations. Those who look to GOD as their SOURCE and RESOURCE never lack any good thing. Refocus on GOD

3. We fight so much, and it would be better for the children if we end this marriage:

According to Scriptures; Conflicts and quarrels come from the passion at war within you. (James 4:1) Divorce is not the solution for marital conflicts, for it creates even more problems especially for the children. Go for counselling and be intentional in changing for the better. Learn healthy conflict resolution skills. Manage your differences and deal with each other in love. Don’t give up on your marriage. Fight for it. You have war against the forces of evil that are trying to break up your marriage and destabilize your kids’ life. Your spouse is not the enemy. He/she might just be the weak link the devil is using to get at you. Pray for your spouse. Prophesy into his/her life. Seek peace and pursue it earnestly.

4. I have fallen in love with someone else:

To fall is to have an accident, and accidents can be fatal. The devil is out to kill your joy, steal your happiness and destroy your marriage. The other person you have fallen for is a mirage against your marriage. Be wise my friend. Do not be ignorant of the devil’s devices. It’s a demonic entrapment to enable you commit adultery. Bible says: The one who commits adultery lacks sense; (Proverbs 6: 32.) And by Biblical definition, ‘Adultery also involves a lustful look by a married person’ (Matthew 5:28). Marriage is a covenant and not a convenient arrangement. Ask GOD to help you Work at making your marriage work and to resist the mirage.

5. I have worked at fixing my marriage but it’s just not working:

The point here is this: “It does not depend on man’s desire or effort, but on GOD’s mercy” (Romans 9:16). Marriage was instituted by GOD. You need GOD every step of the way to keep your marriage going. Bring GOD back into your marriage by acknowledging HIM in all your ways; and HE will direct your path. Stop trying to do it by yourself ask GOD’s mercy for your marriage.

6. It’s been so long since I have had any joy in this marriage and It’s never going to get better:

Joy is an attitude – a mindset. Joy is something you have within you. Joy, from a Biblical perspective, is a fruit of the indwelling Holy Spirit. Nearly all marriages have a dull season when it appears that your love for each other has waxed cold. The truth is have both been caught up with other things and cut each other out. Now there is a longing in you to recapture the romance and excitement you once felt for your spouse. It is a legitimate desire. Only do not allow the devil pervert it by turning it into something sinister. With love and understanding you will both weather this storm together. Discuss this feeling with your spouse. Both of you work out how to spend more time together in play, in prayer, in date nights etc. The joy of the LORD is your strength. As wine matures it tastes better. Your marriage gets better, in CHRIST’s name.

7. I’m not sexually attracted to my spouse anymore:

Some of the most likely factors that may have contributed to your present state, could be the result of: Negative feelings, declining hormones(women), job stress, peer pressure; relationship issues, medication; age; menopause, erectile dysfunction (men); etc. Seek medical , psychological as well as Christian spiritual therapy. Go for deliverance to deal with the spirits of frigidity and aversion for marital sex. Deal with anger, resentment and unforgiveness. These places barriers in relationships. You will get past this and come out better in CHRIST’s name.

8. We both have changed, We are two different people. It can’t work.:

But of course! Change is constant. Learn to appreciate and value your differences. Adapt to the change in your spouse. Be more accommodating. Find a common ground and start there. GOD created woman and man to be different to balance each other out. Differences in personality or in likes and dislikes should enhance rather than destroy your marriage.

9. My spouse has broken my trust; I can’t trust him/her again:

You need to forgive and to move on. When you know a person’s area of weakness, you work above it and don’t let it get to you. Bible says to trust the LORD with all of your heart, and not to lean on your own understanding. The husband is to love his wife, while the wife is to submit to her husband. To trust any human being is to misplace trust. GOD says in HIS Word that “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength and whose heart turns from GOD” (Jeremiah 17:5). Learn to trust in GOD.

10. I’m so confused. I don’t know what God’s will is concerning my marriage: GOD has given you the spirit of love, power and of sound mind. Confusion is not from GOD. Cast out the spirit of confusion. Renew your mind by reading the Word of God. Ask GOD for more grace and wisdom in your marriage. The Bible is GOD’s will that is written for us. GOD’s will is that marriage should model the Love of the GOD head. You will enjoy your marriage and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it, in CHRIST’s matchless name.

Your marriage is blessed. More grace, wisdom, understanding, love, peace and harmony are released to you and your spouse. Your marriage shall model the relationship between GOD and CHRIST and CHRIST with HIS Bride, the CHURCH; in CHRIST loving name. Amein. Hephzibah Christly